My husband admitted that he kissed another woman at a party we were both at two days ago. What should I do?

I’m 29 years old female and my husband is 30 years old Male, We have been together for 10 years (since we were 19), married for 2 years.

No children yet. My mental health (ADHD and severe depression) has not been good for few years and our sex life has suffered alot because of it. I am on medication and go to see someone about it once every two months.

Been trying to go to a therapist but it takes time to be assigned one. He tells me everyday that he loves me for who I am, thinks I’m beautiful and sexy and that he is lucky to have me. I have always felt the same way, he is the nicest guy I have ever met but he can be a pushover when he is drinking and wants people to like him. I am usually the one to tell him to calm down on his drinking and he usually helps me feel better when I’m not feeling good. He drinks about 4-6 times a month (not that unusual in my country) and when he does he drinks excessively and just recently he started to use drugs when offered (cocaine and prescribed medication for ADHD, NOT MINE). I drink also but maybe 2 times a month and I don’t like doing drugs.

Me, my husband and few friends and other met at my friends house to drink and play some games. Everybody was having a good time drinking and we decided to go in the hot tub.

Me, my friend and some others stayed in the hot tub while my husband was inside puking from all the drinking. A friend of a friend invited him to the bathroom to take some of her prescribed ADHD medication and went with her and afterwards they made out and fondled over their clothing (She is the ONLY CONSTANT drug user and abuser at the party). He said that they both stoped and realised what they did and went their separate way. The girl went to another bedroom to have sex with his cousin, which she has done before and everybody knows it. I know the girl and she kisses and fucks anyone and has always had a problem with drugs, her best friend since childhood says she has always been like that but said she got clean from drugs some while ago and didn’t know she was using again. She has also said that we should be friends and hang out when not drinking. I liked her but I didn’t trust her and my husband knew that and said that there was nothing to worry about.

We both have friends of the opposite sex so him being around women has never worried me because I trusted him. I always joked that if anyone would cheat then it would be me (I say that because I thought that there was no way in hell that he would be capable of it and I know I would never and the funny thing is that I said that to another person in the hot tub while he was inside. When we got home, we had sex and he told me how much he loved me, I feel disgusted. He told me two days after it happened, he wanted to wait for after he graduated (which is today and no I didn’t go) but he couldn’t keep it a secret anymore and he was so sad and full of guilt, last time I heard him cry like that was when his mom died. He says that he understands if I won’t forgive him or want to divorce because I deserve so much better. Our relationship has always had good foundation of trust and I know how he is

feeling is genuine, I just don’t know how to move on. I’m furious at him for doing this to me, to us. I will not forgive him easily and he will have to work hard to earn my trust but I’m afraid that this will always be in the back of my mind. First thing I asked him was to block her on social media, same thing as I did. I believe that this was a drunken mistake and that he won’t do it again, I myself am guilty of thinking about kissing someone else, think everyone has had that thought once or twice. I asked him if there is anything that he is hiding from me that today is the only day he will get the chance to come out with it. if I find anything else out then this marriage is over. He had nothing else to add. He said that he will quit the drugs and alcohol and will do anything to save this marriage and to earn my trust. We’ll see if he will be a man of his word. I scheduled an appointment for marriage counselling this Friday and hopefully that will help us. I also booked us a separate counseling. I don’t want to throw away 10 years of relationship down the drain but I also don’t want to waste my life with someone that may hurt me like this again. My heart is broken and I feel so betrayed and my future is blurry. I’m already dealing with severe depression and thoughts of suicide almost daily and to add this on top is almost too much for me to handle. Im sad. Im angry. I’m afraid.

HOW DAVIDO’s INFIDELITY SCANDAL RUINED MY MARRIAGE.

Davido Instagram picture

My husband and I have been married for 5 years, even though we have no kids yet our bond is stronger than concrete cement.

I am a 34 year old woman and my husband is 38, I and my husband have been friends since childhood, we’ve known ourselves for more than 20 years. He loves me and I can’t do without him.

Months ago an infidelity scandal broke out on the internet concerning Davido and how he impregnated a side chick despite the fact that he was a married man. and how we all love the way he cherish his relationship with his wife.

I, my husband and some of my husband’s good friends whom we consider as family friends were having fun, drinking, discussing, joking and having a nice time and dinning together in our home. During this moment I brought up the issue and said what Davido did was wrong. He’s a married man and a celebrity, therefore he should respect himself and shouldn’t be impregnating single girls anyhow.

My husband responded that “any lady who have a loyal and a loving husband, should worship the ground on which the husband walks” and I responded GOD FORBID, like you are not doing me a favour by being faithful to me; It’s your legal responsibility to be faithful to your partner.

And Tony a family friend responded “” What would you do, if you catches your husband with another lady”? I replied OVER MY DEATH BODY “. And immediately all his friends redirected their gaze to him. Looking at him surprisingly like I’m challenging him.

My husband asked “WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU SAW ME CHEATING? I replied not while we are still living under the same roof.

My husband took this as a challenge and waited till his friends left our home.

When the party was over, visitors gone to their various a-boards, and now remaining just my husband and I. He came to me and said now I want to see your reaction after you see the pictures and videos of me with another girl in my hotel room.

In his words “”I’M GOING TO RESPECT OUR MATRIMONIAL HOME AND BED BUT FEEL FREE TO COME WATCH MY PORN IN THE HOTEL.

It was 07:00 pm in the evening, my husband called his manager/Assistant at work ordering him to arrange a lady and book a hotel room for him in my presence, I was devastated, Confused and Heartbroken. After 30 minutes the manager called him and said everything was said.

My husband left home immediately after about 2 and half hours, he sent me his nudes and videos of what went down with him and the lady.

It was like my heart was uprooted out from me, I had an attack immediately, I couldn’t even breathe well, I have not suspected him of infidelity, he cared and showed me love, I’ve never felt insecure with him. He is my hope, my joy, the reason why I’m happy in life is because of him. How could he do this to me.

Though I know all his friends were womanisers even though they are all married, I thought my husband was different amongst them but they are all birds of same feather.

By 10:30 pm same night, I couldn’t rest nor think straight so I packed some of my stuffs in a hand-luggage and left our home to be with my girlfriend.

He came back home later that night and never bordered to call me. Since then we have not talked and I’m going crazy.

I miss my husband, I miss my home. Should I swallow my pride and go back to him? Or I should move on with my life.

Please your opinion is needed.

LAWS OF POWER

Most of the 48 laws draw on a specific situation from history, and even though some of them seem to contradict one another, there’s a precious lesson to be learned from every single one. Now let’s checkout the various laws and how we can use them for greatness.


Here are 3 lessons about power to help you understand it better:

  1. Always make superiors look smarter than you.
  2. Confuse competitors by acting unpredictably.
  3. Don’t force others to do what you want, seduce them instead.

LAW 1: NEVER OUTSHINE THE MASTER

“Being defeated is hateful, and besting one’s boss is either foolish or fatal. Most people do not mind being surpassed in good fortune, character, or temperament,but no one, especially not a sovereign, likes to be surpassed in intelligence.”
– Baltasar Gracián

We all have our teachers, our gurus, our mentors.
A teacher always wants his student to achieve the greatest heights.
But but but…
He will always see you as his student.
And when you try to become your teacher’s teacher, or you try to outshine him, shit happens.
You lose your guru right at that moment as he is pissed off.
So…
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior.
In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity.
Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.
Everyone has insecurities.
When you show yourself in the world and display your talents, you naturally stir up all kinds of resentment, envy, and other manifestations of insecurity.

This is to be expected.
You cannot spend your life worrying about the petty feelings of others.
With those above you, however, you must take a different approach:
When it comes to power, outshining the master is perhaps the worst mistake of all.
Lessons:

  1. Present your ideas in such a way that they echo your bosses thought.
  2. Act less smarter than your boss.
  3. Do not take your position at work or in life for granted.
  4. Always make sure to make it seem like you want to seek the superiors expertise and advice.
    The one thing people in a position of power don’t want is to look powerless. But when you flaunt your skills right in front of them, that’s exactly what happens. The French minister of finance under King Louis XIV. Nicolas Fouquet,
    paid for that lesson with a life in prison. When he threw an excessive party at his chateau in favor of the king, the king accused him of stealing, for no one man could legally be that wealthy, and threw him into prison.

So instead of showing off how good you are, make your boss look like she’s the smartest person in the room, even if you know she isn’t. Give away credit and you’ll be given responsibility in return.

5 Types of people you want to surround yourself with:

1. THE INSPIRED

A person who challenges you to be a better version of yourself.

Have at least one person who inspires you to be your better self.

2. THE MOTIVATED.

Having motivated folks around will make you to look at your habits and question why you’re not getting more done?

3. THE OPEN-MINDED

They look at all possible solutions before making a final decision, so they can present creative answers you might never have thought of.

4. THE PASSIONATE

In tough times being surrounded by passionate people is a great way for you to pick their brains about what fuels them so you can learn to be even more dedicated and passionate.

5. THE GRATEFUL

Someone who instead of looking at the negative, looks at what they’ve gained will help you view your business and your life from a different and humble perspective.

You become what you think… you also become who you’re around.

That’s why they say, “Wish carefully you might get that.”

Output depends on input, and every action has an equal but opposite reaction. Surround yourself with the people you want to become.

13 Soft Skills To Master In 2023

If you don’t master these 11 Soft Skills, you shouldn’t be trying to sell anything to anyone in 2023 & beyond:

1. Sales.

You are a sales person whether you know it or not.

You always sell your:

• Experience

• Solutions

• Ideas

• Skills

Learn to sell and you will have acquired a superpower.

2. Communication

If you master this skill you will save yourself from:

• Stress

• Wasted time

• Missed opportunities

When you communicate, make sure you are:

• Precise

• Detailed

• Unambiguous

3. Networking

Networking will open all the right doors if you connect with the right people.

Your next job or business venture will come from your network.

Make sure it’s constantly expanding.

Your network is your net worth.

4. Financial Literacy

If you know the basic financial principles, you will avoid many financial traps:

• Investing

• Budgeting

• Accounting

Learn how to handle money if you want to get rich and stay rich.

5. Emotional Intelligence.

Master emotional intelligence with:

• Empathy

• Motivation

• Social skills

• Self-regulation

• Self-awareness

This will help you:

• Communicate effectively

• Manage emotions

• Resolve conflicts

• Be optimistic

• Be calm

6. Creativity.

Use your imagination to think out of the box.

Don’t follow the same path as everyone else.

That’s when you find great opportunities, by looking where nobody else does.

“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.”

—Albert Einstein

7. Copywriting.

Write good copy for your services/products when you promote them to others

• How are you going to help THEM?

• Why should they trust YOU?

• What are their objections?

If you are able to answer these questions right.

You can 10X your conversion on autopilot.

8. Analytics.

Our online presence creates a ton of data.

You need to able to salvage that and create useful insights:

• What do people want?

• What products are selling and why?

• What demographics should you target?

Data is the new secret space for attention-holding.

9. Time Management

Time is your most valuable asset.

Learn how to use it frugally.

Don’t try to be productive by completing unimportant tasks and time wasters.

Focus on the 2-3 key things that will have the biggest impact.

10. Self-Discipline

Having skills and talent will get you nowhere if you lack self-discipline

You need to stick to your plan and schedule, even when you don’t want to or lose out to the serious go-getters who do.

Self-discipline will get you further than motivation or talent.

11. Digital Marketing.

If you learn how to promote products or services online, you will never go broke

Learn how to build a social media presence

Leverage it to make money with promo posts, and email marketing.

TL/DR Summary:

1. Sales

2. Communication

3. Networking

4. Financial Literacy

5. Emotional Intelligence

6. Creativity

7. Copywriting

8. Analytics

9. Time Management

10. Self-discipline

11. Digital Marketing

FINDING TRUE LOVE

Finding true love can be a daunting task, but it is possible. It takes time, effort, and patience to find someone who is truly compatible with you. Here are some tips to help you find true love:

1• KNOW YOURSELF . Before you can find true love, you must first know yourself. Take some time to reflect on who you are, what you want, and what you need in a relationship. Knowing yourself will help you find someone who is compatible with you and your lifestyle.

2. BE OPEN-MINDED. Don’t limit yourself to a certain type of person. Be open to meeting new people and getting to know them. You never know who you might find.

3. TAKE YOUR TIME. Don’t rush into a relationship. Take your time getting to know someone before you commit to them. This will help you make sure that the person you choose is truly compatible with you.

4. BE HONEST. Honesty is key in any relationship. Be honest with yourself and with your partner. This will help you build trust and create a strong foundation for your relationship.

5. COMMUNICATE. Communication is essential in any relationship. Make sure to talk to your partner about your feelings and expectations. This will help you both understand each other better and create a stronger bond.

6. HAVE FUN. Don’t forget to have fun! Enjoy each other’s company and make sure to take time to do things that you both enjoy. This will help you create a strong connection and make your relationship more enjoyable.

7. BE PATIENT. Finding true love takes time. Don’t give up if you don’t find it right away. Keep looking and eventually you will find someone who is truly compatible with you.

Finding true love is possible, but it takes time and effort. Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to finding the one. Good luck!

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT SELF IMPROVEMENT

Self-improvement is the process of improving oneself in order to become a better person. It is a lifelong journey that requires dedication and hard work. Self-improvement can involve anything from improving physical health, to developing better relationships, to learning new skills. It is important to remember that self-improvement is an ongoing process and that it is never too late to start.

The first step in self-improvement is to identify areas of improvement. This can be done by reflecting on one’s life and identifying areas that need improvement. It is important to be honest with oneself and to be realistic about what can be achieved. Once areas of improvement have been identified, it is important to set goals and create a plan of action.

The next step is to take action. This can involve anything from making lifestyle changes, to taking classes, to reading books. It is important to be consistent and to stay motivated. It is also important to remember that progress takes time and that it is important to celebrate small successes.

It is also important to remember that self-improvement is not just about achieving goals, but also about learning and growing. This can involve learning new skills, exploring new interests, and developing new relationships. It is important to be open to new experiences and to be willing to take risks.

Self-improvement also involves taking care of oneself. This can involve anything from getting enough sleep, to eating healthy, to exercising regularly. It is important to remember that self-care is essential for overall wellbeing.

Finally, it is important to remember that self-improvement is a journey and that it is important to be patient and to enjoy the process. It is important to remember that progress takes time and that it is important to celebrate small successes. It is also important to remember that self-improvement is an ongoing process and that it is never too late to start.

How to make 2023 your year for success:

Here is a quick steps on how to optimise your 2023

1. Small, consistent actions lead to big results.

You don’t have to accomplish everything in 1 day. Small contributions done on a daily basis gets you the same results.

Saving only $10 a day is $3,650 a year.

Reading only 15 mins a day can lead to several books a year.

2. Take 100% responsibility for your life.

To achieve success, you must take responsibility for your actions and situation.

Acknowledging that you’re in control of your outcome means you understand having the power to change it.

You start focusing on how to improve your life.

3. Develop positive habits.

Your habits will determine your outcomes.

Develop habits that help you succeed like reading, exercising, networking, and practicing gratitude.

The key is to make these habits a part of your daily routine so that they become automatic and effortless.

4. Monitor your progress.

When looking to achieve your goals it’s crucial to track your progress and measure results.

This is what keeps you motivated and helps you to make adjustments for better results.

Celebrate your wins and you’ll strive to keep winning.

5. Surround yourself with positive influences.

Your environment plays a huge role in your success.

Surround yourself with positive people, books, and other resources that will all help you achieve your goals.

They’ll help you stay motivated, inspired, and hungry for success.

6. Learn from failure.

Failure is a necessary part of success. Learn from your mistakes and use them as an opportunity to grow.

Don’t view failure as a setback, but as a way you learned what doesn’t work and got better.

Every failure brings you one step closer to success.

7. Be patient.

The compound effect takes time. Have patience and stay committed to your goals and always working to achieve them.

Small consistent actions over time will lead to significant results.

Don’t expect success overnight, instead focus on making progress every day.

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Be Fruitful in 2023
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